Tuesday, January 3, 2017

New Years Resolutions, 2017

"Be at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let every new year find you a better man."
~ Benjamin Franklin

   Happy 2017!!!!
   It certainly doesn't seem possible that we are rolling in another new year!  I have heard so much talk lately about resolutions..  mainly from those who have sworn not to make any.  
   I however like resolutions!  I make them almost every year..  aside from last year, when we were just settling in to the seminary life.  Usually they are long and detailed, but this year I decided to keep it somewhat simple.  So I want to share my simple resolutions with you, and the tools I've decided on to help me stick with them!
   This year I found the perfect title for my blog!  After years of going back and forth, I settled on Intentional Mommyhood.  This year, my resolutions focus around being more intentional.  If there's one word that I would like to use to describe my life, it is that I lived it intentionally.  So that is my 'word', and my goals focus around it!  

Resolution #1, Become intentional about mornings...

   This one has been on my mind and my heart for a long time now.   I remember years ago when I first started venturing into the blogging world, a woman was talking about being a Proverbs 31 woman, and how she always was up early to begin her day.  Naturally, I'm not inclined to be an early riser.  I've always been a night owl and a late sleeper.  However, its something that I so desperately want to change!  So this year, I took the plunge and purchased a program that I have been wanting to do for a long time!  The program is Make Over your Mornings, a program by the "money saving Mom" blogger Crystal Paine.  The course is 14 days, and it helps you to become more intentional about your morning routine.  I will certainly be sharing on my blog some of the insights I have learned about making the most of your mornings, and let you know how the course does change.  It promises to be a life changer, and I believe it could be!
   Mornings are always so rushed and hurried that I struggle to get out of bed because I dread them.  I normally have very little quiet time, usually wake up with a headache, and just dread mornings in general.  So hopefully by using this course and dedicating time and prayer to help me redesign the very beginning part of the day, I will be able to change a lot of my day because of it.
     I'm also going to be reading through the book I ordered this summer on Amazon, The Early to Rise Experience- Andy Traub.  It's an easy read and doesn't require me to be very awake to sit on the couch folded up in blankets to read.
   So here's to changing, and becoming a morning person- this resolution from a self-proclaimed night owl :)

Resolution #2, Become intentional about being healthy

  I suppose everyone makes this resolution every year.  I worked at a YMCA once, and we prepared the entire months of November and December in order to make sure that the gym was completely tip top for January.  January was our biggest month, our busiest..  the time the most members joined.  By summertime the gym was basically empty, and all of those 'get fit' resolutions had gotten lost somewhere in the shuffle.  But for those first few months in January, everyone had their resolutions and stuck by them with gusto!
    "Lose 10 lbs" I think is probably most important on the top list of resolutions.  Unfortunately, that's not really my goal.  I need to lose more than 10 lbs.  Not because I'm vain or because I want to look better...  but because I have some health issues that are getting more difficult to deal with every year.  It's absolutely madness that I deal with some of the things that I do at the age of 32 just because I'm overweight, and its my fault.
   As I prayed about this resolution and how to tackle it, and God put some important friends in my path!  One of my best friends from back home joined weight watchers when I did.  We haven't really followed the program as well as we should, but we also bought our fitbits together.  Although we just occasionally use challenges and such, its been awesome to keep me accountable!  It's nice to have a friend to text about weigh ins, wins and losses.  Another friend has been in my path and my heart for a few years now in my weight loss journey.   We doing weight watchers off and on for two years now.  She blogs and has a wonderful blog.  We text one another for a few weeks when we first get started...  but through it all her blogs and her texts have been very encouraging to me!  We started talking again around Christmas, and one day I told her that I had no idea why I wasn't losing weight, because I Had no excuse not too! I had all of the tools and my disposal and just wasn't using them.  I told her that I needed somehow to connect my head to my heart and make this weight loss journey a spiritual journey because without God I was never getting through it.  Somehow through that conversation we came up with the idea to read and do the devotion of Made to Crave by Lysa Terkeusrst!  We began asking around and soon we had a group text of about five people doing the devotion and book along with us!  What a blessing it is to have community!
   My devotion today mentioned that it was changing for her when she realized that she should make weight loss become a thing of obedience rather than a number on the scale.  Being obedient to God in saying that you will not allow food to control you, or allow it to be a part of your life that you should allow him to be, such as a comforter.  That was really revalating in the way that I look at this journey!  It's not about the number on the scale, its about allowing God to show me how to be obedient one step at a time, and achieving a goal simply out of obedience to Him rather than anything I have done.
   I will actually be sharing this journey with you.  Although I've never wanted to blog publicly about my weight loss journey.  I suppose I imagined that if I didn't talk about it on my blog, no one would realize that I was overweight?  I suppose its a part of denial.  Yet the truth is, being overweight is just as heavy spiritually as it is physically and mentally.  And its something that a lot of people struggle with.  So I should share, even though I feel strange doing so.  It's not about dropping weight really fast.  It's not about getting into a specific dress size.  Not anymore.  It's about obedience.  It's about overcoming, and its about allowing Him to conquer something I've never been able to conquer on my own.

                          Resolution #3, Become intentional about ministry

    This is a big one for me.  A year ago when we moved here to the bible college, my heart was in a really different place concerning ministry.  It almost seemed like a job.  Your husband goes to college for a few years and has a new job...  there's no shame in admitting that I felt that way.  I imagined coming here and learning the ropes of being a ministry family.  I didn't really grow up in church.  I really don't have years of Bible studies and prayer circles under my belt to help me along the way.  I never even faithfully attended church until about five years ago.  So coming into this I was thankful for the fact that Stephen was going to school, because I had nothing to offer a church family.
   I realized through our time here the meaning of John 3:30  He must increase, but I must decrease.
   God didn't bring us here to change our pattern of living.  He didn't bring Stephen here specifically to teach him the things of the Bible.  Those things are things that we have learned since we have been here...  but God brought us here to change our hearts.  Through our time here, our lives have completely transformed.  We have became unsettled, and learned to live in that restlessness with peace.  Our lives have been turned upside down, and God has shown time and time again that its not us who is running the game..  no matter how many times we have tried to take the reigns and do it ourselves.  Nothing has happened the way we imagined it, but we have been provided for again and again.  Not in our way, in His way, and we have found that His way is even better than anything we have came up with on our own.  I'm so thankful for this moment, and so ready to live the rest of my life this way.
   I've realized that 'ministry' isn't a job title, an its not just something that preachers do.  It's how we all live our lives.  We are all ministers of the gospel.  We are all, as born again believers, walking ministers of God in His glory.  My husband always says, "God has never saved a bench warmer."  He doesn't save anyone that he expects to sit by idle and not do anything.
  So when I say be intentional about ministry, I'm not just talking about my husband and preaching.  I'm talking about being intentional about sharing Jesus in all that I do.  In my home schooling, in my child raising, in my marriage and my friendships.  It's easy to get caught up in the method and forget the source...  but I'm resolving in this year to focus on Him and the great calling he has placed on all of our lives.

So Happy New Year to all of you!!!  Make this the year you become intentional about something in your life!  God bless you!!!



  1. Hi Stacy, firstly I want to say thank you for popping over to my blog occasionally. I haven't popped back over until now as the end of 2016 was kinda tough emotionally and I tend to disappear to figure out stuff before I can communicate again :) butttttt, I did notice and am thankful! Secondly, I trust that 2017 is going to be awesome for you and your family. The only way to do life is with Jesus! Thirdly, I loved your post, how you wrapped your word around your new years resolutions! Every one of those resolutions is relevant to all of us. I especially liked the bit about eating right being about obedience and not just numbers on a scale (which so dictates many a day for me sadly).

    So, onwards and upwards! We can do this and we will grow!
    God bless

    1. I disappear very frequently! I actually deleted an older blog that had all of my followers on it over the summer, just to reassess and take a breather. I think we all must step back from time to time to re-evaluate! I do enjoy following your blog and look forward too throughout the year! Thanks for stopping by! So good to hear from you! God bless!

  2. Hello Stacy, and thanks for sharing your actions in making resolutions achievable. As I was reading your post it brought me to (as you mentioned) our greatest source of strength in anything we set out to do is reliance on God. Without Him guiding our actions we won't become successful. My biggest struggle are cigarettes. I understand the difficulty in life. I'm grateful Christ has crossed our paths. May your husband and your ministry continue to grow and flourish.

  3. Stacy
    Great post. I'm taking away the "becoming intentional," part. Those words give power to choice. Thanks!
    Blessings to you in your endeavors,

  4. Resolutions seem to be easily broken - that is our flesh desiring to take the easy way out. Yes, health is a good reason to loose a few pounds, and to avoid the ice cream, candy and sweets. (I am talking to myself about the ice cream etc.) Becoming intentional is the key. Make a decision and stick to it. Yes, being in a disciplined program of Bible study with others of like mind will certainly change your heart and that is the important thing. Thank you for sharing with us here at Tell me a Story.

  5. I love how you've framed your resolutions around being intentional!! That's definitely something I want to focus on as well. In fact, all three of these areas are key in my life, too. Thanks for making me think about being more intentional, rather than just letting the days slip by.